I feel very performative at networking events. Dropping in genuinely can happen at any time, yet both parties have to feel into that space. Sometimes it happens, and sometimes it doesn't. I struggle with showing up "accurately" - meaning what I put out is what I had intended. I noticed the ones who do listen (beyond my words) receive what I meant. So now I'm practicing on listening better such that others can connect with their own authenticity. I'm not always good at it, yet it's a learning process.
It is tricky to be open to whatever the other person receives, despite our intentions. Perhaps there is a skill you have in allowing people to express and think more laterally, or in creative ways? I wonder...
Great discussion- I notice that it's hard for me to show up in groups when I sense that others have an expectation of what my energy should be - when I'm normally the chipper fun guy, it's hard to allow myself to be seen in lower states. I get a lot of "are you alright?" and I wish people just let me be how I'm being.
Authenticity to me is a moving target - it's not like there's just one me that I want everyone to see - it's that I am always changing, and I don't want to have to pretend there is just one me to present to the world.
Wow, Christine. That was profound. I've never thought about authenticity fatigue before, and that was really articularly expressed. Thank you for flushing that out and giving me such good food for thought.
You're welcome! It's certainly something I've experienced personally and tried to grapple with... as I do believe authenticity can be elusive unless consciously cultivated, with all the roles we each have in our lives and society.
I feel very performative at networking events. Dropping in genuinely can happen at any time, yet both parties have to feel into that space. Sometimes it happens, and sometimes it doesn't. I struggle with showing up "accurately" - meaning what I put out is what I had intended. I noticed the ones who do listen (beyond my words) receive what I meant. So now I'm practicing on listening better such that others can connect with their own authenticity. I'm not always good at it, yet it's a learning process.
It is tricky to be open to whatever the other person receives, despite our intentions. Perhaps there is a skill you have in allowing people to express and think more laterally, or in creative ways? I wonder...
Good observation and question. Me too..
Great discussion- I notice that it's hard for me to show up in groups when I sense that others have an expectation of what my energy should be - when I'm normally the chipper fun guy, it's hard to allow myself to be seen in lower states. I get a lot of "are you alright?" and I wish people just let me be how I'm being.
Authenticity to me is a moving target - it's not like there's just one me that I want everyone to see - it's that I am always changing, and I don't want to have to pretend there is just one me to present to the world.
Fully can relate to that. Deciding to be complex and fluid in more spaces, and temper the weight of responsibility. 😊✌🏼
Wow, Christine. That was profound. I've never thought about authenticity fatigue before, and that was really articularly expressed. Thank you for flushing that out and giving me such good food for thought.
You're welcome! It's certainly something I've experienced personally and tried to grapple with... as I do believe authenticity can be elusive unless consciously cultivated, with all the roles we each have in our lives and society.